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| Originally Posted by Axe victim Blimey..classroom volunteers! The Politically Correct' brigade wouldn't allow that sort of thing over here. You would need to undergo 'special training' in case you did something to upset the little perishers. |
I have some concern with the current PC attitude that any man that wants to participate in his child's upbringing must be some kind of child molester. And, if you want to be a foster parent or work for pay in a facility for children in California, you do require training and a criminal background check. If you run a daycare from your home, you have to give up your right to privacy - the state may enter and inspect at
any time.
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| Originally Posted by Axe victim The special training ought to be run by the SAS, but unfortunately it would be down to the Education department of the Local Authority. From what I've seen on my travels, the American youth/children seem much more civilised than the odious little twerps who wander the streets of Scotland. Mrs E and I were quite impressed by their good manners. I came to the conclusion that they must use some form of hi-tech American programme over there to get them to this stage.....flogging the hide off the little darlings perhaps? |
I know you're joking, and I don't think most kids are raised all that well, but I'll tell you what's working for my family.
We don't just let things go. One of us is at home all the time, and our kids are being taken care of by the right people - their parents. We don't beat our kids, though spankings aren't unknown - they're just reserved for the truly exceptional, and usually for something that could cause injury or accident. An example would be reaching for things on the stove, etc., where the consequences are truly horrible and yet unimaginable to a child.
The idea is that some things have to go right past the frontal lobes into the hindbrain, and a few swats to the butt can be the fastest way there.
But if they're acting up - and that includes rudeness, disobedience, whatever - it isn't allowed to go unremarked, and there's always a consequence, be it sitting in a chair, no TV, no treats, etc.
And we always - ALWAYS! - leave room to escalate. If sitting in the chair isn't working, there's standing in the corner, and so on.
Now, my kids are four and seven, and haven't really gotten old enough to cause real problems. But it's my guess that by teaching them self-discipline now, they'll have it when they need it.