Fool in love...

So, i can't believe i've actually done it again...
I mean, i've a history for falling for the wrong girl. So, after the last one, of which i came out with huge dagger in my back i decided to forget women for a while.
And, it worked, it really worked. I mean, i still have female friends, there's especially one that i dig, she's the coolest girl ever. She's in my class. I've always been fascinated by her, and her ability to raise the mood no matter where she is. She's great, and damn cool to either hang or drink with too.

But now, after certain events.
We don't live in the same town, she lives in the town i go to school, which is a much better town to drink and have fun in, so i spend time there regularry in the weekends.
This time i was going to sleep at her place, she invited me.

Anyways, earlier that night, when she arrived, she gave me a kiss, which i thought of as nothing at all, since i usually give her and her friends a little kiss on the cheek when i see them.
And we had a blast, like always when with her.
But, when we got home to her place and were to go to bed, we started talking in bed, both were probably starting to sober up a little and such so, we were pretty awake.
And then she laid her head on my arm, and by her initiativ, we started kissing. No sex, just kissing, lots of it. This continued the next morning, and the next night and morning. And so, the third night, we just slept by each other sides. It was after that it got weird. The first day, she seemed to be a little distant, but not obvious. And now, we're back at where we were, having a blast together, laughing, drinking and all. Only, i've fallen in love with her, or, atleast nearly in love with her. I think about her all the time, and smile when i see her and talk to her.
I don't know if it's mutual, and it's hard since we've been so good friends beforehand...
what the **** am i to do.
I need to know where i stand, where she stands, where we stand and i need to do it without ruining our friendship.
But the way i see it, this can only go two ways, our friendship will blossom, or it will wither.

Love sucks.
Talk to her. Say everything.
Good luck.

Hey man, thanks for sharing that story with us. Now, the first thing is, I wouldn't feel too discouraged by the fact she was distant the day after the kissing, that's fairly natural. She probably thought you didn't think too much of it, in much the same way you didn't think she thought too much of it. The door swings both ways in that scenario. It's pretty clear she does hold you a little more dear than the average person.

You're in a position to get your opportunities with her. Just keep doing what you're doing and you'll get your chance, and you seem to be the type who can run with it.

Best of luck.

Go for it. Tell her how you feel, and ask her if she feels the same way. She may be just waiting for you to say something. If your friendship is strong ( it sounds it) it will still be there if she doesn't want something more than the friendship you already have.

Easier said than done, though...

Quite true! But no one said being in love was easy, and imagine the regret if you never tried

Well she obviously has feelings for you malkavian and from what you have said you definately have feelings for her. Forget about your old girlfriend or whoever, and go for it all guns blazing, thats the only way, if you really want her. You cant live your life in the shadow of your true feelings, i know its scary but theres no use prolonging the inevatable. If she does turn you down as a wise man once told me, "whatever doesnt kill you can only make you stronger!"

Love is confusing, and can make a man do crazy things. Just keep your cool, and do all of what was posted above. I wish you the best of luck.


-Also a fool in love
Aneurysm

Speaking from the female perspective, I think that perhaps she isn't sure either about where the friendship versus loveship is going. By her slight cooling off, I would think that she is a bit uncertain about things. At this point, I would continue to keep it friendly but not jump in and become intense. I would wait before telling her you are in love. It is often more intriguing to women (and men) to have flirtation and not have things become too heavy right away. You might indeed scare her off. My advice--keep the friendship, flirt some but not too much, and keep it light. She should then be very interested and let you know she is by body language or by telling you so verbally.

Yes thats what to do, I like the cut of your gip.
Keep flirting, tease her, use strategy, flirt and when its about to get heavy back away, this usually drives girls nuts (i know from experience.) This forces them to come on stronger to show if theyre interested or not, hope for the best but be prepared for the worst.

It's hit or miss really.

I suggest that you remain open and honest with her and whatever you do don't play games if you think you really like her. If you are coming from a position of friendship, you should be able to talk honestly about how you feel with her in a safe, secure manner. If you can't discuss this with her, perhaps you were fooling yourself all along. Perhaps your need for advice at this point stems from some deep down doubts in the first place? Take it easy, try to be yourself, if she is worth all of this anxiety on your part, you'll soon find out and be all the more "experienced" for it.


best of luck

Women, and I speak from experience here, are enigmatic on purpose.

Talk to her, tell all, and see what comes of it.
Chances are, she's sitting in her room wondering how you feel too.

Although it isn't likely she's asking advice on a Pink Floyd website.

Here is my advice...

Say something to her. React to her reaction. And go from there.