a younster looking for women advice...

Hello all, as do most adolesent young men i tend to have my troubles with women. the story is i seem to be getting into relationships with friends who've had feelings for me and when i really start to like them they have the same cliche'd excuse "well, i've been having alot of problems at home right now and i just dont want to have a boy friend right now, but i dont want to lose you as a friend..." this seems to be a recurring conclusion. this happened twice and both times it hurt and it just seems to me that there's some ulterior reasoning that i'm not picking up. i know i may seem pretty naive right now i just feel like when we really were just friends and we started a more physical relationship, we were still friends and all except when i really think i started to "love" her she would break it off and now it just seems strange to talk to her or anything and now when she's become a part of my life and i need her so much and its all just over i dont know what to do. she said i did nothing wrong and i didn't but is there any chance of getting her back? because it just will never be the same... I could really use some good advice, thanks.

The rest of your natural life will be like this. Love sucks.

I admire your optimism.

Dude learn this now...........freinds= no play, take girls that are freinds as losses and just think of them as cool guys with long hair youll be better off

Well, let's see... There's always the search function. You aren't the first one to have this problem.

As far as life advice goes, well, I'd say to leave the serious relationship thing for later, and be happy with what you get for now. That's how it's going to work out, anyway - these things happen when they happen.

And believe me - it'll give you less to feel like an idiot about when you're in your forties, like me.

Dont mean to be an arse but.....forget about her.....i have been in that situation and i hated it too...i hoped i could get here back but after i failed i got over it and noticed someone new....and i totally agree with Aneurysm...LOVE SUCKS....so i just stay clear of it and let the other person feel that first so your not hurt in the end....but then again i havent been exactly the most "lucky man" lately so i could be wrong.

I've finally realised that it's not about "actively looking for a relationship" in as much as being comfortable with people you enjoy being with.

Sometimes, something happens.
Sometimes, it don't.

I honestly don't mind it either ways. For sure I've had my series of breaks (last one wasn't so long ago ) and funtimes.

[QUOTE= i need her so much and its all just over i dont know what to do. she said i did nothing wrong and i didn't but is there any chance of getting her back? because it just will never be the same... I could really use some good advice, thanks.[/QUOTE]

been there. let me tell you, someone gave me advice to stay away, but i ignored it because i thought i could make it work and i really, truly wanted it to... its not worth it. I think everybody reaches this point at some time. its time to forget about her, no matter how much you dont want to.

To quote Ulysses Everet McGill from O-Brother Where Art thou.....

"Believe me, Delmar, Woman is the most fiendish instrument of torture ever devised to bedevil the days of man."

Truer words were never spoken.

My god men are idiots.

"i just dont want to have a boy friend right now, but i dont want to lose you as a friend..."


One of these days my friend said a sentence that me seemed very true.
She said:
"A men never choose a women, it's always a women that choose a men"

The chances are that in five years, none of the parties involved will know each other (or care), so don't worry about it. I don't wish to disagree with my dark-eyed pal Simon, but being happy in a relationship is usually borne from within oneself, so take a moment to reflect on the fact that the older you are, the wiser, more fulfilled and generally happier you become and your interpersonal circumstances should reflect that.

Just give it time. You'll be great.

Cheers and good luck,

Mark

Here's a hint:

If you want to be in a relationship, try relating.

Or even better yet, realize that it isn't about getting someone back--or letting her go.

This is a human being, not property, treat her as such. Things that will happen will happen. And also learn that not everyone you desire will feel the same way about you--there is a probablity that you cannot change her mind.

She just doesn't fancy you and if she is a nice person she would do the kind thing and break off the relationship all together.